Is My Husband Gay, Straight, or Bi? - A Guide for Women Concerned about Their Men (Hardcover)

Jennifer can t believe it. Just married and pregnant, she discovers that her husband has been meeting Brad for sex. When confronted, Tom doesn t deny it, but he insists it s just a thing and he isn t gay. He tells Jennifer he loves her and wants to stay married. She is sure her marriage can t survive. John s wife, Karen, discovers that her husband likes to watch gay porn. John doesn t understand his wife s reaction. He isn t being unfaithful. Why does she care what he watches? In couples therapy, Karen raises the same questions that Jennifer has: Does this mean my husband is gay? Can my marriage survive? These and other stories illustrate the difficulties inherent when a wife or girlfriend finds out her man has had or wants to have sexual contact with other men. But many times, the man is not gay or even bi-sexual. Of course, some men with gay sexual interests are gay men in a process of self discovery; they are coming out. But many times, these desires only reflect a different side of a man s sexuality or some response to childhood trauma or experiences they have not fully processed. Their stories illustrate the fact that men can be straight but have gay sexual interests. Here Joe Kort and Alexander Morgan make the distinction between gay men and straight men with gay interests more clear to women who want to know how they can get through finding out about these other interests. They explain the many reasons why straight men may be drawn to gay sex, how to tell whether a man is gay, straight, or bisexual, and what the various options are for these couples, who can often go on to have very fulfilling marriages. Through the use of first hand composite stories from clinical settings, Kort and Morgan also help to readers to come to a better understanding of their own and their partner s sex lives and fantasies. Is My Husband Gay, Straight or Bi? is a self-help book intended to help couples understand how male sexuality can express itself in ways that may be difficult to understand. Many marriages have been hurriedly terminated when men and women (and their therapists) have lacked the information they needed to understand a couple s true options. This book provides the clarity, describes the options, and (in many cases) offers hope for relationships and marriages that have been brushed off as doomed."