I Thought it Was Just Me (but it Isn'T) - Telling the Truth About Perfectionism, Inadequacy and Power (Paperback)

The quest for perfection is exhausting and unrelenting. We spend too much precious time and energy managing perception and creating carefully edited versions of ourselves to show to the world. As hard as we try, we canat seem to turn off the tapes that fill our heads with messages like, aNever good enough!a and aWhat will people think?a
Why? What fuels this unattainable need to look like we always have it all together? At first glance we might think itas because we admire perfection, but thatas not the case. We are actually the most attracted to people we consider to be authentic and down-to-earth. We love people who are areala a weare drawn to those who both embrace their imperfections and radiate self-acceptance.
There is a constant barrage of social expectations that teach us that "being imperfect" is synonymous with "being inadequate," Everywhere we turn, there are messages that tell us who, what and how weare supposed to be. So, we learn to hide our struggles and protect ourselves from shame, judgment, criticism and blame by seeking safety in "pretending" and "perfection,"
Based on seven years of ground-breaking research and hundreds of interviews, "I Thought It Was Just Me" shines a long-overdue light on an important truth: Our imperfections are what connect us to each other and to our humanity. Our vulnerabilities are not weaknesses; they are powerful reminders to keep our hearts and minds open to the reality that weare all in this together.
Dr. Brown writes, aWe need our lives back. Itas time to reclaim the gifts of imperfection a the courage to be real, the compassion we need to love ourselves and others, and the connection that gives true purpose andmeaning to life. These are the gifts that bring love, laughter, gratitude, empathy and joy into our lives.a